CROWNED WITH JOY
CAN HELP YOU
THE MISSION OF CROWNED WITH JOY
Adultery. Shock. Disbelief. Divorce. This can't be real. This can't be my life. It wasn't supposed to be this way.
You aren't alone. The betrayal trauma, grief, and loss you are experiencing can feel overwhelming.
I have felt it too.
You may be wondering:
Will I even survive this?
Is there anyone I can trust?
Will I ever be ok?
The answer to all of those questions is YES! No matter how you feel in this valley today, the truth is:
You can flourish!
You can learn to trust your gut (the promptings of the Holy Spirit)!
You can experience authentic joy again!
The mission of Crowned With Joy is to restore women's shattered souls after sexual betrayal and divorce so they can live abundant lives with authentic joy.
Spiritually, I believe betrayal trauma and Complex PTSD shatters a person's soul, which is where our identity resides. Once a soul is restored, true identity can be restored. When that happens, the shattered one is transported from a captive victim to a free and flourishing overcomer who is empowered for joy-filled Kingdom living.
My passion for the Crowned With Joy blog is to be a safe space for you to encounter God's love and truth so your shattered soul can be made whole again!
WHO AM I?
Welcome! I'm Sandi Joy, and I am so glad you're here!
I am a Christian woman who was shattered by betrayal trauma, also called Sexual Addiction-Induced Trauma (SAIT). I've spent the past six years pursuing wholeness with intentionality so my own shattered soul could be restored. I hope that as I share what the Lord has revealed to me along the way, it will lead you to freedom so you can move from a rejected and hopeless captive to a free and joy-filled overcomer in Christ!
I pray that even if you were further traumatized by spiritual abuse after seeking help from unskilled people-helpers in the church, you will find this site to be an uplifting and safe place to encounter God's love.
In 2017, I received a BA in Applied Behavioral Science. I am also a Certified Life Coach and a Certified A Door Hope Peer Facilitator through Christian Sex Addiction Specialists International. I've received training in domestic violence in the church as well as APSATS (The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists) training in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. I'm telling you this because I understand that many of you have endured secondary trauma from unskilled sources. You can be assured that I'm trauma-informed and compassionate.
WHY DO YOU REFER TO SERIAL ADULTERY AND SEX ADDICTION AS DOMESTIC ABUSE?
Serial adultery and sex addiction required your husband to repeatedly:
Lie to you
Cause you to question your accurate perceptions
Cause you to question your reality or even create a false reality in order to make sense of his lies and manipulation
Put your health at risk
Expose you to Sexually Transmitted Infections without your knowledge
Hide financial expenditures from you
Withhold affection, time, and resources from you and your family
Cause you confusion from his "Jekyll and Hyde" behaviors
Oppress you, and much more . . .
This is not a description of a difficult marriage; this is a description of domestic abuse, even if your ex-husband had never hit you. For that reason, I call it what it is.
DO YOU OFFER PERSONAL COACHING?
I do not offer coaching at this time, but take a look at my resource page for excellent coaching options.